Comments on: Looking for love on all the wrong Facebook pages

CNET News.com intern Sabena Suri searches for ways to stay sane in the crazy world of teen dating 2.0.

[steves10]

Like, insurrection...

Alert the National Guard, the jackbooted thugs from Teenbeat Magazine have captured and subverted C/NET. Oh, well, like, who really cares?

[wiarumas]

Chivalry

"Chivalry is dead.... and women killed it."
-Dave Chapelle

I actually enjoyed the article... it was actually half decent compared to the drivel that comes out of the usual articles nowadays... but I suppose its all relative. Kudos to you.

I would just like to add why guys don't buy flowers, sing, and are a bit more romantic... because girls don't like that anymore. They like the guy in the polo, faded jeans, saying "sup" to people across the room. Guys who write poetry were probably at that same party... you just weren't interested in them.

There has also been a research study recently that correlated that guys with high IQ and low IQ have significantly less sex partners than guys in the middle range. Why? I would assume (if not for poor correlation and causation) that our culture no longer recognizes the intelligent (nerds, dorks, etc. maybe) and the more sophisticated. Our culture glamorizes the bad ass, the rebel, the uneducated rappers who slang about guns, drugs, and sex, and athletes (I'm not saying your husband is any of these).

I'm not a bitter man throwing this in the girls face. In fact, I used this tactic in scoring chicks in my late teens. I drove a Mustang, had pierced ears, was in a band, etc. Now I'm an attractive, well educated, and sucessful man in the low 20s with a long term girlfriend, soon to be fiance that I met on MySpace (first and only person I've met online). I did a bit of growing up and I don't have to play that card anymore. I just realize what girls prefer and how to work that both in presentation of self and in conversation.

[STL DWN]

AMEN BROTHER

I COULD NOT HAVE SAID THAT ANY BETTER. THERE IS AN OLD
JOKE, CHIVALRY IS DEAD.... BECAUSE WOMEN KILLED IT.
UNFORTUNATELY WE AS MEN ARE NOT RESPECTED UNLESS WE
DISRESPECT THEM (WOMEN). THAT IS WHY I AM PROUD TO BE
SINGLE. CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT AND FOR FINDING A
REAL WOMAN AMONGST ALL THESE GIRLS. JUST WANTED TO
RESPOND, TAKE CARE AND BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.

[murk54]

Can't say that I disagree

As a young adult in our present societal state where we are consumed by the quick and the digital, there are many things that go lacking in relationships, and many conversations go unspoken because everything about the other person is already known before the first date, thanks in part to Facebook and MySpace. Even as a guy, I won't lie, I like romance and the digital age is curbing that to an extreme. Excellent article, on point and pertinent.

[Akshay1215]

AWESOME

Thanks for the tips! I'll make sure and use them, i always look for love on all the wrong facebook pages.

funny too :)

[ffwang2]

SWEET

I think this article is very telling of the cyberspace situation today. The advice is very helpful and quite hilarious in some aspects, given the "duh" advice that we sometimes forget. Great Job Sabena!

[sanjayb]

Flowers? Only if u look like Brad Pitt

The reason why guys don't send flowers, etc, etc is no amount of flowers is going to get u a date if you aren't good looking. That never changes. Shallowness existed then and exists more now.

[albinoboy123]

Someone's bitter

Here's a secret, if you talk to a girl or give her some attention, she'll start to notice you. Be _really_ nice to her, smile a lot, and soon your ugly face will look beautiful (to her).

If you're having trouble talking to girls, talk to the ugly ones first. If you're not actually trying to get a date, you won't worry about being rejected, and you'll be more confident. It really does help.

Oh and I'm sorry you think you're ugly.

[Quixotic115]

very true

I recognize many of the things you pointed out and I also long for that old fashioned courtship that can't be produced online. I still think it's better to know someone in person or by walking up to them or having someone introduce you whatever. All this digital love takes away the experience and it makes it really weird sometimes.

Btw i'm a guy so it's just to show you that some guys also care about this as well.

[STL DWN]

I'M CONFUSED

WAIT, SO YOU WANT GUYS TO NOT DO WHAT YOU DID? IM
CONFUSED. IF MR. RIGHT WAS THERE AT THE PARTY, WHY DIDN'T
YOU TRY TO SPARK CONVERSATION WITH HIM INSTEAD OF
RUNNING TO THE COMPUTER? DON'T GET ME WRONG, I AGREE
WITH EVERYTHING THAT YOU ARE SAYING. THE ONLY THING IS, IF
YOU WANT THE GUYS ON THE OLD SCHOOL ROMANCE TIP, I DONT
THINK FACEBOOK OR EVEN THE MIGHTY MY SPACE WILL HELP YOU.
I AM IN THE SAME SITUATION THOUGH, SO AT LEAST YOU HAVE
COMPANY. GREAT STORY ANYWAY......